Glamboozling is real and here’s what to do if it happens to you

The dating world has no shortage of frustrating behaviours, from ghosting to breadcrumbing, leaving many of us wary of red flags. Just when you think you’ve seen it all and can spot them from a mile away, a new term emerges to describe yet another dating disappointment—glamboozling.

What Is glamboozling?

Picture this: you’ve put together the perfect outfit, done your hair, and put on your best makeup, and you're all set for your date…and then, just before you head out the door, you get that text. Or worse, radio silence, when you say something nice like 'See you there'. Well, that's glamboozing. 

Its the ultimate dating betrayal—getting stood up or cancelled on at the last minute, after you’ve already gone all out. It’s not just the no-show that stings; it’s the time, effort, and excitement that come crashing down in an instant. The emotional rollercoaster—excitement, anticipation, and then crushing disappointment—makes this experience even more disheartening. So, are you worried about going through this? Well, here are some signs to look out for. 

They’ve cancelled before

If they have already postponed or rescheduled your date more than once, there's a good chance they’ll do it again. People with avoidant personalities or those with commitment issues often struggle to finalise plans, which can lead to last-minute cancellations.

They're unreachable on the day of the date

If they suddenly go MIA as the date approaches or are being weirdly vague about finalising details, it’s not looking good. A lack of confirmation hours before you meet is a huge red flag.

They don’t finalise the time or place

If your date keeps things hanging by saying “let’s see” or “I’ll tell you later,” it could mean they’re not fully invested and interested in meeting up. A solid plan means real intent, while vague responses usually mean they’re leaving room for a last-minute escape.

How to handle being glamboozled?

 

So, you’ve spent time and effort getting all dressed up, and at the last minute, your date pulls a disappearing act. Annoying? Absolutely. The end of the world? Not at all. Here are some constructive ways to deal with the situation.

Don’t take it personally

As frustrating as it is, remind yourself that their flaky behaviour says everything about them and nothing about you. Instead of feeling rejected, see it as dodging a bullet. A person who bails on plans so easily likely isn’t someone you want to invest more time and emotions in.

Make new plans

Why waste a great outfit and glam look? Instead of feeling bad, go out and grab drinks with a friend, treat yourself to a nice dinner, or do something that'll still have you feeling fabulous.

Recognise the red flags for next time

If you notice the warning signs leading up to a date, hold off on getting all dressed up until the plans are solid. A quick confirmation call or text before getting ready can save you the trouble.

At the end of the day, glamboozling is just another modern dating hurdle. While it is annoying, it does help you separate the ones who will waste your time from the ones who truly value you. 

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